What is it that attracts one person to another? How does this so-called "chemistry" take place? There have been numerous studies done on this subject to try to find answers to this question.

What is it that attracts one person to another? How does this so-called "chemistry" take place?


There have been numerous studies done on this subject to try to find answers to this question.


Some of these studies have shown that people are attracted to other people who resemble themselves in interests, moral values, personality, background and physical appearance.


If this is true, then questions can be raised concerning the saying that opposites are attracted to each other.


However, there are other factors involved. Intellect, personality, religious beliefs, emotionality, sense of humor, life goals, financial stability and sexual attraction.


Love at first sight does happen, but many times it takes awhile before a person comes to the conclusion that he or she has met the right person.


Many of the reasons listed above are fairly obvious. A recent study adds another important factor that is not as obvious: how we speak.


The study showed that people are attracted to people whose speaking styles are similar to their own.


A study of college students showed that couples with the same language styles were four times more likely to contact each other for a further relationship compared with those who had different speaking styles.


An individual's writing style was found to be another factor. Online chats between couples were analyzed. The results showed that couples who had the same writing styles were much more likely to date each other than couples who had different writing styles.


Choosing a mate is one of the most important decisions a person makes. Unfortunately, about 50 percent of the times a wrong decision is made, resulting in divorce.


Although research has been done in the area of finding ways to help people make the right decision in selecting a mate, it is limited. More research needs to be done.


However, when it comes to matters of the heart, there are many intangibles that even research cannot uncover.


Massachusetts-based Dr. Murray Feingold is the physician in chief of The Feingold Center for Children, medical editor of WBZ-TV and WBZ radio, and president of the Genesis Fund. The Genesis Fund is a nonprofit organization that funds the care of children born with birth defects, mental retardation and genetic diseases.


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